This is my attempt to beat to the punch any friends of mine who didn’t know that my birthday is today. I know full well that I have friends who don’t know my birthday just as I don’t know a lot of my friend’s birthdays (especially the Summer ones since I never celebrated them during the school year in college. They know who they are). I usually feel like if I bring it up I’m fishing for something, and that makes me feel uncomfortable.

I was having this conversation with a friend about the idea of planning your own birthday and rangling all your friends together. Their argument for it was that even if it seems self absorbed on one level, most people plan their own birthdays and invite all their friends to celebrate. I genuinely hate planning things like that so I choose not to put myself through it. I don’t expect friends to feel bad or for them to feel obligated to do anything special for me so I don’t make a big deal about it.

Then there’s the argument that it’s not just about doing something for yourself, that it’s for the friends who want to celebrate your birthday and that by denying them that it could be considered even more selfish. Whatever, it’s my birthday and I have the right to do whatever I want.